This word has become somewhat glorified in our society. Busy at work…busy at home…busy with children…too busy to cook…too busy to clean….too busy to find time to spend on self-care…the list goes on and on.
If not, has busy become another term for “stressed” or “stretched thin”?
I have had to sit and reflect on my use of this word, as I have always worn it with a badge of pride. I thought that if I was busy, then I was fitting in with the rest of the successful people in socity. Besides, if you’re not busy…won’t others judge you as being lazy?
I am not here to demonize the word; but rather re-define it. I think that “Busy” has become a crutch and an excuse for many of us.
If there are things that we don’t want to do, or don’t prioritize highly…we quickly become “too busy” to do them. The way that we perceive this term can contribute to underlying stress. When we play the role of a victim to our schedule, “busy” takes on a whole new meaning and energy.
I would like to empower you to take back the control over your day-to-day obligations; and I encourage you to shift your perception of “being busy.”
Where to start:
-Simply perceiving your day as being filled with choices, rather than obligations can be freeing. Spending time on the things that you love and move you closer to your goals is incredibly fulfilling. I am here to tell you that it is OKAY to push the pause button and take time for yourself. It’s OKAY to relax. You do not need to push hard and grind it out for days, weeks, and months on end just to wait for a week vacation to sit back and do nothing. Give yourself the permission to NOT be busy for a change, and see how it feels.-Incorporating daily practices of self-care, relaxation, and whatever you may need to recharge your batteries is incredibly important. It is unhealthy to borrow from tomorrow to get through today, so take some time to identify the activities that fill your tank back up and then schedule them in!-Stop judging yourself and others for your level of “busy.” Try to get rid of all comparison and judgement that you may be currently holding on to. Yes, we all have the same 24 hours in a day to get things done; but it is not a competition! What you choose to fill your day with needs to align with your values and your purpose in order to feel good to you.-Shift the way you communicate with others. The next time someone asks you how you are doing, perhaps you could respond:
“I’m doing great! I am filling my time with so many things that I enjoy doing, which makes me feel really connected to a bigger purpose.”
How does that tone sound compared to:
“I’m good…crazy busy…but who isn’t?”
I know that one of these statements gives me knots in my stomach, while the other feels light and free! This conversation can quickly take a positive or negative turn…and you dictate its path with your initial response. Set yourself up to have more meaningful and positive conversations with your peers. There may be absolutely nothing different about how you are spending your time in these examples…but the way that you perceive it and describe it has changed. It sets a completely different tone, doesn’t it?
Wishing you lots of happiness & health!
Shelly Solan, DPT, CWC
InsideOut Wellness & Rehab
Doctor of Physical Therapy
Certified Wellness Coach
‘Empowering you to claim your Health as your Wellth’